The Culture of Not Enough

Self-Care is the Best Care of All

Finding time to celebrate life and treat yourself is vital if you want to have enthusiasm and energy to take care of all the other people in your life.  But why is it such a struggle for some of us, and how can we realize the importance of putting ourselves back on our own to-do list?


Do you ever feel guilty when you take time for yourself?


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Annarose Ingarra-Milch

Very pertinent segment - good reminders and tips. Taking time -- making time -- to check in with our mind and body. A simple investment that yields huge dividends. After all, each of us is an asset. And if we consider ourselves an asset, we treat ourselves with care and protect ourselves - just like we would do with any other asset.

Nancy Werteen and Kim Howie

Thank you all for your wonderful comments. We value your insights on self-care and appreciate you for sharing your wisdom with our community. At The Wisdom Coalition, we believe that we ALL have wisdom, and in sharing that wisdom, we are helping one another find joy in the journey of life.

Be sure to tune in next week as we continue our series by shedding light on forgiveness (one of what we are calling the "mushroom topics" because they grow when you keep them in the dark).

Janet Metzger

I enjoyed the program this evening. I think that Shonda Moralis should have her own program . I would be interested in learning more about exercises in mindfulness. I believe that she has a lot to offer women today to help them learn to live a more balanced life.

Lizzie Jordon

Daily practice's of pranayama and asana, aka breathing and movement, are my self-care/window to wisdom necessity and I feel guilty when I DON'T practice. I think that guilt is born from knowing that without this loving discipline, I am disconnected from the resource that sustains it all. Of course I also go to movies and drum circles and the latest... Salsa dance class! And I wouldn't know the sensation of emotional fulfillment if I didn't spend time with my grandchildren and adult children. There are times when I fall out of balance in either direction and my body wisdom speaks. Knowing this language is useful in sensing where the imbalance is and discovering alignment - again. Life is filled with opportunities to screw it up and figure it out, over and over again. Leaning into each other as women is a lost art that I see returning and I am deeply grateful to Kim and Nancy for The Wisdom Coalition connection. Amazing women! ALL of you.

Barbara Bennett

Loved the mindful exercise with the cup of tea. A few moments to just take a break from everything, looking forward to adding this to my day, thanks!

Annette Carpien

Great topic.
No, I don't feel guilty, I celebrate that I took time for myself; that my self-love and self-care triumphed over my saboteur. This is my inner voice that tries repeatedly to seduce me into the feeling of how successful and accomplished I will feel if I instead heed my to-do list and do my pressing projects, right now instead of doing my yoga and meditation practice ;)

Discovering and practicing how to convert my saboteur into my teammate (so i can get important projects done AND take good care of myself) is my work in progress! I have started and stopped this process many times. I am committed to this (transforming my saboteur into my teammate) process for 40 days.

Nancy Werteen and Kim Howie

We agree, Jennifer! And we understand that it's difficult to find time for self-care during the holiday season, but this is when it's MOST important to take care of YOU so that you stay healthy and have the energy to do all that needs to be done. It's helpful even if you can set aside just five to ten minutes for exercise or take a few mindfulness breaks throughout the day. Thank you for your comments and for your wise advice about how feeling guilty does nothing for us!

Pam Bartlett

I think as woman we are programmed to put ourselves last, not ask for help, and then feel guilty when we do. How do we stop this cycle? It isn't good for our health, or our families, but we go on auto pilot, and need to take care of ourselves.

When my parents and my in-laws got older, their experiences were very different. My mother had a lot of outside help when my dad got sick. She still got her hair done, and had lunch with her retiree friends. It was only a few hours a week, but it kept her stress level down. My father-in-law had Alzheimer's, and my mother-in-law wouldn't accept outside help. It was very stressful for all of us.

I have been through a lot of unexpected changes over the last 8 years, and I think I've survived it by knowing when to reach out for (and accept) help, and to not feel guilty for taking 'me time.' It makes a difference in quality of life, and it is a mindset. Everything will still get done, but you'll be healthier.


Carolyn, I like the idea of asking your friends to check in with you to make sure you are taking care of yourself. Thanks for that tip!

Jennifer Perreault

This is a big time of the year that we (moms, wives, friends) are extremely busy and exhausted. How can we really take time for our self when there is so much to do?

In looking at the above question, what good does wearing our self thin do and what good does feeling guilty do for us? NOTHING!

Nancy Werteen and Kim Howie

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